Practicing positivity can be challenging in a world filled with hate, anger, and negativity. So I'm here to give some tips on how to stay positive in any situation. It could be a relationship, break-up, rough day, problems at work, anything.
Forgiveness is not for the others, it is for you. Forgiveness is #1 because it is the biggest step you must take in order to move on towards positivity. You must forgive any person involved in the hard situation that you're going through and sometimes you may even have to forgive yourself for what you've done in the situation.
Acceptance is the act of understanding and knowing that with or without closure in a situation, things happen, it's life and it's a lesson learned. This for me can be hard to do because I sometimes don't understand why certain things happen or why people act the way they do. I tend to get wrapped up in trying to figure out the "why?" of the situation when sometimes it's not for me to know. Also, you must accept the part that you played in the situation. It takes two to tango.
Love? I know, I know, it's hard to continue to love after being hurt, disappointed and/or angry. But I am here to tell you, never forget to love. Never forget to love yourself and the people who are close to you because they are the ones who you need the most through rough times. And I know this may sound crazy but love the ones who hurt you because they honestly need it. (Just love them from a distance.) Everyone needs love, some may not know how to, so you are that positive example of how to love.
Stay true to yourself through any situation. Don't let anyone change you in a negative way. Don't try to be this strong person when you aren't. It okay to cry, scream, and curse. The only way you are going to get past any type of pain is by healing. Healing requires the truth. KNOW YOUR TRUTH. Yes, it may be a hard pill to swallow but once you swallow it, it will bring you peace.
Having faith is the most positive mental and spiritual gift you can give yourself. This may sound cliche' but you must believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you don't, you will suffer. There are so many ways to gain faith. If you go to church, go. You can read a positive book or listen to positive music. One thing that you must do is surround yourself with positive people. Misery surely loves company, so while you are going through your rough patch, know how to decipher who you need in your circle and who is around for ill reasons.
Communication is key in any aspect of life. You must learn how to communicate how you feel in a positive way or things will go left for you. Talk to the people who won't judge but who will understand, listen, but most of all tell you the truth. Closure is a complicated subject but my advice on closure is: If you are looking for closure don't have any expectations because expectations can cause you even more pain. Not everyone is built for closure. So with that said, communicate your feelings for yourself, to get them off your chest, not for the others.
Trust is a hard thing to have, I know. If you feel like you cannot trust anyone during a hard time, trust yourself, meaning believe that you can do anything you put your mind to. Put your trust in a higher power if you are a spiritual person. Place your trust in a safe place. Also, remember that not everyone is the same. This is challenging to do, but it's true. Yes, everyone may seem the same but there is one person out of however many that you feel are the same, that actually has some sense. You cannot handle every single person you come into contact with, so choose the people you let in your life wisely.
These tips have definitely helped me get through many situations and events in my life. Hopefully, they impacted your life as well. Stay positive babes. Always remember that you are not alone. THIS TOO SHALL PASS.